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Moms reassure that this is a normal, passing phase that usually resolves within a month or two as the baby adjusts; stepping back, gentle caregiving, and daily reassurance help.
It's heart-wrenching for parents to hear their baby cry loudly with a new caregiver, even when the parent is right there, and they wonder if the nanny is wrong for the baby. The community reassures that this is a normal adjustment phase that passes within a month or two, that babies sense a calm versus anxious caregiver, and that - counterintuitively - stepping back rather than taking over helps the baby bond and settle with the nanny.
Here's what moms in our community shared based on their own experience.
It's a phase and the baby will get used to it slowly - usually within a month or two. After about a month with a new nanny, babies often accept her bathing them.
Talk to the baby every day: 'aunty will malish you, change your diaper, bathe you and take care of you.' If your presence makes the tantrums worse, step out and let the nanny and baby figure it out.
Whoever does these personal activities should be kind, gentle, and speak softly - babies pick up on vibes more than words, and a hurried or panicky caregiver makes the baby cry more.
This happens with any new person and is also a phase of resisting being put down. Don't take the tasks over yourself instead of the nanny - the baby needs to get used to her. Be around when you can.
The information shared on this page comes from real experiences of mothers in our community. While we strive to provide helpful insights, this content is for informational purposes only and should not be considered medical advice. Always consult with your pediatrician, healthcare provider, or other qualified medical professional for any questions regarding your child's health or development.
Last reviewed: June 17, 2026
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