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Moms describe a range of start times (early-elimination from ~9 months up to 1.5-2 years) and split between standalone potties and commode-fitting seats based on the child's preference and home layout; patience through accidents and withholding is key.
⚠️ Caution:If your child withholds poop, develops anxiety after a painful or bloody stool, or constipation isn't improving with laxatives, consult your pediatrician - this needs medical guidance rather than pushing training.
Parents worry about starting potty training at the 'right' time and feel discouraged by accidents, equipment their child rejects, and especially distressing poop-withholding after a painful stool. The community reassures that there's a wide normal range of start times, that children have genuine preferences between potty types, and that patience through accidents is normal - while gently flagging that painful or bloody stools and stubborn withholding deserve a pediatrician's help.
Here's what moms in our community shared based on their own experience.
There are two main types - small standalone potties and step/ladder seats that fit on the toilet. A standalone potty got pulled apart by one toddler at 18 months, while the commode-fitting steps seat worked better a little after age 2. Different children prefer different ones.
Some start an early-elimination routine around 9-10 months - not formal training, but sitting the baby on the potty every morning and after naps, making a 'shhhh' sound, for about 5 minutes. This reduced wet diapers. A low FirstCry potty helps achieve a squat position.
Others started formal training around 1.5-2 years and are working through accidents - it's a process.
A commode-fitting seat that sticks works well and is easy to keep clean; the Zollyss Portable Baby Potty Training Seat (fits round and oval toilets) was recommended and well-liked. Choose standalone vs commode-fitting based on how accessible your toilet is.
For a child who withholds poop (especially after a painful, constipated poop), let them poop/pee in underwear in the early days - the discomfort makes them more inclined to use the pot. Watch for cues that they're about to go and quickly take them to the pot.
The information shared on this page comes from real experiences of mothers in our community. While we strive to provide helpful insights, this content is for informational purposes only and should not be considered medical advice. Always consult with your pediatrician, healthcare provider, or other qualified medical professional for any questions regarding your child's health or development.
Last reviewed: June 17, 2026
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